Long question, short answer: WHY NOT?
Say YES and get ready for the trip of your life where you’ll find more than pretty landscapes, you’ll find the answers to all your questions and finally find yourself.
OK, ladies, we have to face it. Is time, it really is. We have grown so much in the last decades that to be called only a WOMAN nowadays is not enough.
“Without women, there would be no revolution and no revolution means no freedom”
Right now I’m 35,000 feet in the air…and NO, I’m not flying like SUPERWOMAN does, although sometimes I feel like her. I’m writing this post on a plane that will take me to close one of the most important doors once opened: college! Yes! I’ve finally decided to fly to my lovely Granada and get my well-deserved degree and put an end to that amazing and unforgettable period of my life.
Looking through the window and getting lost in the clouds, I could picture myself on my first day at college and I remembered how scared I was… I didn’t know what to expect. I had the same feeling when I decided to go on my first solo trip. So what to expect? “Expect the unexpected”, I’ve heard people say.
I had only 48 hours to organise my trip and as I didn’t know which place to go to (all I knew is that I wanted to go to a new destination), I decided to go to Skyscanner and look for the cheapest option available. The outcome? Iceland. Again, destiny has decided for me and I didn’t put any resistance. After doing a bit of research, I was happy to find out that Iceland is was the Destination of 2016 for solo female traveller, why? Low crime rates and a culture of equality.
As soon as I sat down on the plane, I looked through the window asking to myself, what the heck I was doing here? I had no regrets but the whole flight I was like “And now what’s next?”, “So I’ll be on my own the whole time?” As we were landing the landscape already blew me away. For a second I thought I was on Mars. I knew I was doing the right thing. I was where I wanted to be: on a plane heading to a place I’ve never been.
If not now…when then?
Now, ladies, the truth has come to light. This entry explains why I claim all women should travel solo at least once in their lives.
So, Why Travel Solo? Because…
You Gain More Confidence
If you are lacking in self-confidence, solo travel will be the solution to get your confidence back! But why being confident is so important in life? Because being confidence will help you to succeed and overcome challenging obstacles in life. For example, without confidence in yourself, you are likely to question your own decisions, always trying to seek reconfirmation in friends, and never follow your own initiatives. Solo travel will not only help you gain self-confidence but after your adventurous trip, you’ll feel so much capable and powerful. You’ll learn to rely on yourself (only yourself and no one else!) and conquer any challenge on your own.
You Appreciate the Little Things in Life
After running out of petrol in the middle of nowhere, sleeping in airports and having to wash your hair in The Nile River (trying to avoid not to be eaten by crocodiles); you’ll soon learn to appreciate the small things in life. A roof over your head, yummy food, a warm bed and clean running water is all you need, anything else is just a blessing to be thankful for.
You Evolve your Understanding of Love
Being in a relationship and loving your partner (man/woman, man/man, woman/woman, whatever the case!) is not the only way to feel love. Travelling has stretched my understanding of love to include animals. Yes! I’ve never been a big fan of dogs but now I’m dying to have one. I’ve learned to love little things in life, like a smile from a stranger, a sunny day (and a rainy day too!), eating my favourite dish, cooking pancakes on a Sunday morning…. I learned to love in every way, any shape and form. I learned to love just LOVE.
You Love Yourself More
Travelling solo as a woman will also teach you to love and respect yourself. Is a shame to see that some women tend to compare themselves with others to the point that even competing with them! Is so sad. This is not healthy for anybody, as it will fester inside you with envy. Solo travel will help you understand that there is no need to compare yourself with others and that instead of looking at others you need to look at YOU and look after YOU. If you don’t look after you, who then? There are so many different people in the world with different personalities, body shapes, and skin colours. We are all different and I’m glad we are. How boring would it be if we were all the same? For better or for worse, different people we are.
You Restore your Lost Faith
Things can and will go wrong on a trip or in life itself. Here is where life (or human beings) will surprise you with human kindness. I cannot remember how many times I’ve been offered help by a stranger while I was away. I remember being in Miami once when I got on the bus to find out that I was short with coins and a lovely woman ending up paying for my ticket or being offered a phone to make a call because my phone had died, or even being offered a free ride from one place to the other. Conclusion? People are (mostly) good by nature. Although, I do think that you only get what you give. I mean, if you are nice, people will be nice. The more you give, the more you’ll receive. KARMA rule: Your actions have consequences, your world today is just a reflection of your past, so be good!
You Gain Independence
You’ll invariably learn to depend on yourself and ONLY yourself. Being independence means that you’ll be responsible for your own decisions in life, you’ll be responsible just FOR YOU. Being independence will help you to guide yourself by following your intuition; it will help you to train yourself to overcome future obstacles in life. Over the time, you’ll be more awake, more alert, much more perceptive and you’ll develop survival instincts. When you gain independence you’ll be happy being with your own thoughts for weeks and you’ll see that making decisions for yourself is just something normal.
Don’t lean on others. You were born with two hands and two legs.
Travelling Educates you in the Better Way
Travelling is a powerful act that can actually change your life forever. Generally, travelling makes your knowledge wider and you’ll become experienced. Your mind can cope up with any kind of environment and the surrounding people. Nothing will be the same. I mean, once you start travelling, there will be no way back. You’ll develop a new concept of what education really means. Education does not start in schools, education starts at HOME. Travelling will help you to understand that is nice to be important but is more important to be nice; is more important to be respectful towards others. Education is a choice. Choose to be educated and for those who decide not to be; kill them with kindness. Manners affect how we speak and how we act in any situation with any human being. Good manners are a reflection of a person’s heart and soul. Manners will affect people around us and our relationships with them. Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others, so if you have that awareness you have good manners. Dare to leave a mark on others’ lives. You don’t have to be a famous person to leave a mark. Just be You with manners.
Not all classrooms have four walls.
You Make New Friends
When you travel solo you have no other option but to socialise with people. Normally, if you stay at a hostel, like the one I stayed Reykjavik City Hostel, you’ll realise that most of us are in the same situation, I mean: travelling solo. This is a great opportunity for you to get to know new people and why not make friends for life.
You Learn How to Stand Up for You
Travelling solo will make you a fighter. You will learn how to fight for what you really want, need and believe. You’ll have a voice and all you’ll want is for people to listen to you. Travelling will build a new personality in you; you’ll be a brand new person.
You Free Yourself
All women who travel solo, for whatever reason, they will experience a change that is simply hard to explain and describe. Is a new word hard to find in the dictionary…. it is just a feeling of freedom. If you dare to travel solo, you’ll be FREE and you will become a REAL WOMAN that will have the energy and wisdom to fight until the end for what she wants and believes.
After travelling to Iceland? Came Dubai & Istanbul…and counting.
Dare to change, and everything will change! xx